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Works For Me Wednesday-Coffee With a Friend July 8, 2009

Filed under: Works for Me Wednesday — threeboysandcounting @ 3:55 am

Works for me WednesdayI have been a stay at home mom for 4 1/2 years now, so I am feeling pretty well-adjusted. Don’t get me wrong, I definitely have my days and moments, but overall, I feel I have gotten used to life as a stay at home mom. However, one thing that I inadvertently have been missing out on as a result of our frequent moves was regular, planned interaction with a true girlfriend. After moving here, I met (through the internet no less) another mom to be who had just moved here. We totally hit it off, and after we each had our baby (her first, my third), we got together one day for coffee. Holy cow was it a good time. We talked for hours and I really felt like I was making a difference for her. I remembered those early days with my first and adjusting to life as a mommy and life at home all day with a baby. I felt like I was finally able to help someone else and impart advice, and just plain good old listening during this coffee “date”. My friend suggested we do it again next week, and here we are 5 months later and still meeting weekly for coffee. It is the highlight of my week , and I hope her week too. I am pretty certain she looks forward to our time hanging out as much as I do. It has really re-energized me and lifted my spirits to have someone that I enjoy interacting with and commiting to doing so on a regular basis. I think it is SO important to do this, so if you are a new mom or even an “old pro”, I strongly urge you to find some outlet for adult interaction that you can enjoy quite regularly….I think it has introduced sanity back into my life and I hope it can do the same for you! For more works for me wednesday, visit here.


8 Responses to “Works For Me Wednesday-Coffee With a Friend”

  1. niki Says:

    Love it! I should set a regular date with one of my gf’s who I like to do this with on occasion. It is so renewing and refreshing, why not make it regular?


  2. melissa uttke Says:

    I think having coffee with a friend is awesome! BUT I was wandering, is this a get together with just you & your friend, or are the kids with you’ll? If the kids are with, what do they do while you chat? OR are you constantly interrupted? When I try to get together with a friend for coffee with the kids it just ends up way to chaotic! I would love tips…I am a SAHM of a 2 1/2 yr. old & 7 mo. old.

    • Hi Melissa,
      I have a four year old, 2 year old, and 5 month old. My friend has a 6 month old. We actually have our kids with us. We meet at my house because I have more kids and my friends 6 month old is pretty portable. What we often do is meet during my 2 year old and 4 year old’s naptime, so it is way less interruptions. There are still a lot of interruptions, but I also reserve their tv time for during our coffee time so I can put on a movie and my 2 oldest are pretty calm and entertained so I can have an adult conversation! maybe that is terrible of me…..

      • melissa uttke Says:

        No that’s not terrible of you! I think it’s a good idea to plan TV time then. = ) My 2 yr. old is super active, and very excited around his friends and just wants to run & play! Also, both of my close girlfriends each have 2 children around the same age as mine, so it is a little more challenging to work around the kids schedules especially the younger ones who nap at different times. Oh well…maybe one day. I guess that’s why we need ladies nights out. = ) I am glad it works for you..ENJOY!= )

  3. wanda Says:

    Yes….so much growing takes place when mama fills her love tank!

    Women need other women! Men aren’t wired to meet emotional needs (per Dr. James Dobson). Friendships are vital among women. Nurture them….and coffee is one of the best avenues to do that.

    Great tip!

  4. Here, here!! I totally agree with you. Great WFMW.

  5. Cerissa Says:

    So true! I have a friend that just recently had her first baby and is really struggling. I am so glad to be able to encourage her with the total life change just as friends encouraged me.

    P.S. I love your blog name! When I saw it on We Are THAT Family, I knew I had to click… we are 3 boys and counting too 🙂

  6. Laura Says:

    oh yes.. have to meet to be with other adults… Thanks for the reminder, especially knowing you just moved! That’s encouraging to be sure not to get stuck when you probably need it most!

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